Superficial dating

But on a more serious note, her self-esteem began to be affected when she found the lack of first dates developing into seconds disheartening.

Bloomfield says burnout can happen when all dates start to look the same and you are not excited by the prospect anymore.

“Unless you are exceptionally sociable, meeting new people can be stressful and incredibly tiring, as well as fun.

It almost becomes a job of work called “finding The One’…

While this might be fine if it’s what both people are looking for, it can be difficult for people who do want something more serious.Imogen*, 24, from London is tired of the long process of app-dating: “Keeping up with guys that you don't even know if you like yet because you haven't met them takes up so much time.I'm not very keen on texting as it is, I would rather arrange to meet up and then talk on the date.Daters can become aware of an addictive element in their own behaviour, swiping through dozens of people in a short time, and finding no one that satisfies,” she told “Slow everything down. Go deeper into yourself and explore new ways of meeting people.Start to become a 'conversational artist,' famous among your friends for asking interesting questions and connecting with people and politics in the wider world.On my short stint on Bumble [a dating app where women have to initiate the conversation] I ended up spending an entire evening just catching up on all the messages I'd got replies from – exhausting.” Suzanne agrees that “chatting in itself has become a thing”.She really enjoyed internet dating around 15 years ago but says it has now become infiltrated by people looking for something casual or not even looking for anything at all.With digital dating, there are several steps before a date is even suggested or agreed.Often there is around a week of talking before someone plucks up the courage to suggest going for a drink.“I think you have to have a thick skin and be prepared for rejection and to reject people - you're meeting someone based on their photos and their texting small talk (people have longer to compose and think through a message unlike in real life).” Despite the negative feelings some have towards dating apps and websites, there is no doubt that they are here to stay for the meantime.Technology is ever evolving so these inventive ways of finding people to date are unlikely to diminish.

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