Throughout my short career as an 8minute Madame, I regularly received e-mails from singles over 40 wondering why there weren’t more events for our age group. But because soliciting the men to pay for the event in this manner would not be appropriate, I offered them a free coupon for the event.Example: “Please plan an event that will enable me, a 56-year-old woman, to participate in the speed dating. I just turned 40 and after reading the age group for your event I was offended.” Over 40 myself, I empathized and promised these people—my people—that I would be the one to turn this ship around. Yes, typing it out makes it sound so much worse than it did in my head, but I wanted so much for this event to happen.I spent more time researching dates for these women than I ever did for myself. In the 24 hours before the event, I was out four, almost five, women.One wrote me the day prior asking if she could still get a refund, and I explained that because she was confirmed this was not the policy.Although it might not be right for you, I think speed-dating represents the essence of why we date, despite our pasts, despite our disappointments. And every eight minutes, there’s more to hope for: that maybe, someday, there will be no need to ring for assistance.Hilory Wagner is an author, national magazine contributor, and social mediaholic who blogs about the impacts of new age communications on our lives, work, and relationships.This is when life takes a funny (in hindsight) turn, leaving me with too many men. And although the men were as friendly and talkative as I had hoped they would be, the majority of them thought it appropriate to tell their dates that they were attending for free. Let me tell you, the women had a hard time seeing my side of this story. I was a fan of the eight-minute date because that is what worked for me.“According to the men that I spoke with, they all informed me that they were recruited by you,” one woman wrote me after the event. At that time, as a single parent of two kids and two dogs, with a full-time job and a home to run, a speed date was all I could manage; all I could commit to.
If you approach your encounters mindfully, you may find a rare common interest or a shared passion.Enjoy a giggle over a bottle of wine, meet new people, flirt, and see what comes of it!My final events played out like the fitful struggles of any star-crossed relationship.You will be pleased to hear we GUARANTEE success at Speed Dater Events. We also offer great group discounts to our singles social events so get a group together and make a night of it.While plenty of guests come to singles events on their own, you will never regret sharing a different night out with a friend.“This indicates to me that they were not seriously looking to meet anyone and they were just there because it was a free evening. To those of you newly looking, or still looking, or in the midst of packing up your bells and staplers, I say: Keep an open mind.Even though I did get a match, if anyone asks what I thought of the whole experience, I will inform them that I would not do it again as the men were there under false pretense, and certainly not with yourself as the Event Coordinator.” Clearly, my well-intended enthusiasm was not well received, despite the fact that this woman actually got a date out of it. Whether you speed date or slow date, you will likely get what you expect.Interested in trying some singles dating events which are fun and different?At Speed Dater, we run unique single events to suit your specific dating needs.A low key, sophisticated approach to dating in Austin.Preferring a 'less is more' environment devoid of typical event trappings.