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"Until I reached my 30s I'd always just presumed babies would happen and not worried too much about it. Not having a partner was not going to get in the way of that." It was at her niece's christening that she first heard about artificial donor insemination, when someone told her about a woman who was attempting to get pregnant by this method. It was shortly afterwards that she began to think about the possibility of adoption and even put her name down with the local health board.
But then when my niece was born I knew I didn't want to go to my grave without experiencing that. But the waiting lists were long and the more she thought about it, the more the idea of having a baby by a donor began to appeal.
However, even with all the obstacles in my way, the initial upset has dissipated and I am no longer crying into my (value brand) cornflakes each morning.
I am picking myself up, dusting myself off, putting myself out there and letting the single mother survival instinct take over.
As the primary carer of three children aged 11, 9 and 7, I desperately needed that income. Ironic, I thought to myself as I wondered if I would soon be out of my house. There were tears, and wringing of hands, and ringing of friends. You keep so many balls in the air that you need and want to be able to take some of them for granted and when one of the big ones drops it affects all the others." Collette says that she had a "fear of not being able to find another job that I could fit around the kids.
In the first eight months of last year homelessness was up by 76pc, a figure that is both outrageous and deeply frightening, and yet it is continually growing.She sent an e-mail to a couple of Irish clinics but was told the service wasn't available to single people here.Undeterred, she Googled "single woman and donor insemination" on the internet and found a clinic in London which treated single people and homosexual couples.But with three children to care for the old adage of 'I don't know how she does it' comes to mind. And that's before school holidays are even explored.Part-time work would, of course, be far more achievable - but that's seen as the Holy Grail for many mothers, so the demand far outweighs the opportunities available.And as an extra bonus it also gave me a bit of money to add to the pot of family finances. I was still out of work, unemployed, broke, broken and scared.However two years ago when I split from my husband it became much more than a nice-to-have side line - it became my lifeline, my main income each month, my safety net. And then a few weeks ago the unimaginable happened. They were very sorry, it was nothing personal, the role was moving in-house. With more than one in four families in Ireland currently being headed by a single parent and one quarter of them in paid employment, I know I'm far from the first or last person to experience this, but that really doesn't take away that fear factor. She says "It's devastating when something doesn't come off or chang es unplanned.The fear of this reality was always there, lurking in the back of my mind, so I made sure that I squirreled away what I could, when I could.I also have a very supportive family network and an ex-husband who is understanding and willing to help out until I get back on my feet again.With single parents being more vulnerable than most, homelessness is a real possibility and a great fear for many.Fortunately I know I will never be out on the street, but I still need to start earning pretty quickly in order to live our day-to-day lives.