Dating age rule older
Consent is imperative; not exploiting people and not letting other people exploit you is imperative.
But don't be afraid to celebrate and embrace the thrill that there are more options for your romantic life than there ever was for your no-good-dirty-rotten-cradle-robbing-great-great-grandfather.
I was having breakfast the other day with a friend who was giving dating advice to his son.
For purposes of his anonymity, I am going to call just call him "Son." My friend said, "Son, you're 18 years old, so I am going to tell you how you date.
But not all young people are energetic and flighty. Maybe you’re drawn to women who are passionate, outspoken and slightly nihilistic, and historically you’ve dated a lot of Argentine women.
Maybe you are drawn to women who are clear on what they want, who have fascinating stories to tell and lots of wisdom to share, and all your exes happen to be older than you. Regardless, you wouldn’t just be with someone being into someone only because of the demographics they represent—by which I mean, their age.
Some still abide by the ol' half-your-age-plus-seven rule.
Some will only date above the age of 31, because everyone knows that is the exact moment at which people instantaneously want to commit.
Assuming that age, maturity and intention for a relationship go hand in hand wrongly assumes that development and growth occur on a fixed and linear timeline headed towards a destination, and that this timeline is the same for everyone.“It’s really just about whether you’re on the same wavelength and whether you’re ready for the same things at the same time,” says Patrick, a 32-year-old graphic designer in New Orleans.(Full disclosure: we have never dated.) Though stage in life is commonly tied to age, the two don’t necessarily run parallel, as was the case when Patrick dated a woman eight years his senior.Now that the general public is hesitantly opening up more possibilities for women and queer folk outside of the kitchen and the closet, there is space for couplings to be less transactional and heteronormative than they were for our cradle-robbing ancestors.As it happens when a script is rewritten or ditched altogether, we’re all just stumbling around trying to figure out what the lines are.If our current political climate is any indicator, being older doesn't necessarily mean being wiser.Most of us know a 45-year-old who behaves like an incensed preteen barred from attending her friend’s slumber birthday party, or a Bodhisattva-esque 12-year-old with an inherent understanding of the tides. In today’s dating world, there is no clear-cut line for when an age gap in a romantic relationship goes beyond the socially acceptable and becomes creepy.“These are qualities that are emblematic of youth, but can be found (or not found) in someone of any age.” (Full disclosure: David is 12 years older than me, and we used to date.) “I’m not decidedly into younger women,” he continues, “and I really don’t designate myself to a certain age range.Ideally, when you’re into someone, it’s because their behaviors are expressive of who they are as a person, not of the particular demographic they happen to belong to.” I.e., he ain’t got no type, bad bitches is the only thing that he likes.Recent psychological research from the University of Texas supports the notion that, across cultures and history, men do prefer younger women, and women prefer men their age or older.While this holds true on a macro level, loosening social structures and mores are offering more flexibility, feasibility and choice when it comes to the age of the people to whom we pour out our souls.