Casual dating defined
However, before I made any decision on the matter, a friend’s advice stopped me in my tracks.
“Maybe im just a cynic, but that seems like more than what most are offering.
” This is why women who are serious about nabbing a boyfriend and not an F-buddy usually have sex and then back off, letting him know that she is NOT going to be his casual buddy.It’s true that a lot of dating coaches will tell you to Just Say No to Friends with Benefits – because it’s a dead end.But on the other hand, I can also think of a few situations in which casual is BETTER than serious.Once again, if all you did was flirt and have sex, then the answer is probably NO. You bond when you talk about things close to your heart, when you share memories and opinions.In the “afterglow” stage you may experience very lovey-dovey feelings…and the oxytocin drug rush is indeed powerful. Sorry to be crude but I do think it’s important for a woman to understand the risk of the FWB relationship. And you may be left heartbroken and confused, when you find out he’s met someone else that he really likes.Who would I be most interested in for the long-term? It is theoretically possible that a guy could fall in love with in a casual relationship – but in order for that to happen, you would have to talk about deep emotional experiences, the things you have in common, the things that he wants in life.It is a good sign if a man actually remembers things that you share about yourself, and that he confides in you private thoughts and “secrets” that he trusts you with.I’d say go for it.” At first, I dismissed his claim that her suggestion was ‘more than what most’ were bringing to the table.Surely an offer of exclusivity was not that rare of an occurrence as to warrant such a vague and casual offer so appealing?But if there’s no emotional connection, PRE-EXISTING to sex, then it’s just a rush. But what if you talk about really deep things after sex? It may be human nature to compare all the people we’re dating, regardless of gender.A man’s ultimate goal is to answer the question: of all the women I’m dating who would make me the happiest?